If I ever tell you I’m going to sleep and then you see me posting or liking things online for about an hour immediately after that, I promise I wasn’t lying to you, I’m just bad at going to sleep and it is usually a long process that begins with disengaging from any sort of immediate contact with people (chats, for example) and ends when everything on my screen is blurry and I’m hallucinating plot points I haven’t written yet
the painful, awkward moment when your character’s insecurities line up with yours
I hate it when you’ve been really on edge for a while and then you have a breakdown over a little thing and everyone thinks that you’re getting super upset about not washing your hair
That wasn't an attack at all, your comic content has nothing to do with it, it's more that every time (at our events) we turned around there was an ad. Other people have asked us to put their ads down and we said no because it's a fan gathering, not a panel, or advertisement area, but somehow the BiM ads were there regardless. I didn't mean to be like "ARGH WE HATE YOUR COMIC" I barely know the comic, I just don't like being a poster board is all. Just ask. Sorry :\
See, that’s not what you said, is the problem. If you had simply said that you didn’t appreciate my leaving advertisements, and come to me while we were both at the Faire- we saw each other not long after that, remember?- and talked to me about it, it would have been far more streamlined a process and nothing would have gotten lost in translation.
Not only that, but it’s not my fault that you have ads placed at your events. I didn’t know I wasn’t the first. I certainly won’t be the last. You have to remember that not every event is connected, and even if you are frustrated, your initial reaction in my inbox seemed rather passive-aggressive and confrontational for any kind of professional conversation.
That probably wasn’t your intent, but it’s how it is interpreted by the recipient that matters.
There are a few asks I am responding to, but I am going to turn off asks and submissions for a while.
I’m sorry for the inconvenience.
I’ll keep this to the point, since you both think my judgement is impaired.
I have severe anxiety tied to online interaction and some forms of in-person interaction, like interviews or talking about my work. It does not typically hinder my judgement, though it does make me feel as though I am being attacked from time to time. This is a result of PTSD that I am in the process of recovering from. My reaction is not under my control, and you questioning it is another case of rudeness, my apologies.
I thought they were being rude due to them telling me that anxiety is not an excuse for things, when in reality, like any other disorder, illness, or injury, it is.
Finally, I saw both of these people in person not long after the things they are confronting me about here. It would have been far more polite, effective, and generally productive, in my opinion, for them to talk to me in person about it, from a professional standpoint. I would not have reacted like I was coming under attack. Though this isn’t their fault, it’s still a factor in how I am reacting now.
Please do not tell me to calm down or imply I’m overreacting.
Your shit is dope, man. Keep playing hard and work hard, little man.
Thank you, ahaha…
... I worded the remark about your shyness poorly, and I apologize.
I appreciate the sentiment with your apology, but you were very rude and really did cause me quite a bit of stress. I wish that wasn’t the case, but. It is.
I'm sorry Twig, but I have to agree with Sprocket. The way I see it is that regardless of whether or not the ads were thematically appropriate, advertising at SPG's merch table implies that you're business affiliates. If Bunny and David had approved it, that may be one thing, but as far as I know, you only talked to Paige-- who in this context is only an employee. Free fliers at, say, a coffee shop are one thing, but con tables are another, especially for a small indie business like SPG.
I wish you, Elta, and Tooie nothing for the best with BiM, but I do think you crossed a line. And though I understand social anxiety is a hurdle, “being shy” can’t excuse everything.
Perhaps I wasn’t clear enough. Elta has been talking to Paige for months, and they’re friends. Best In Me has been mentioned more than once when they talk, through conversation, and while we were talking at SPWF, I mentioned I was passing out ads, and she offered to put them on the booth. While standing next to Bunny.
Later in the weekend I actually discussed it with the band, and David said that while they don’t officially endorse us, due to legal reasons, I’ve not done anything wrong.
Please do not assume that I’m acting out of naïveté or purely out of social anxiety or anything like that. I am a mature adult that has studied these kinds of things purely to avoid mix-ups and legal things. I thought each of my actions through thoroughly and made sure, mentally, that there wasn’t any real way I was stepping over a line. While it’s now obvious that not everyone feels the same way about my actions, I would really appreciate not being, frankly, attacked about how I’m handling the business I’m helping start.
For clarification on that comment, I’m incredibly stressed right now, on top of already being a very anxious person. I feel as though I am under attack though I am aware that this is not your intention with your message.
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I didn't much appreciate you leaving ads for your comics at the kids corner at SPWF. 1. Your comic supposedly has nothing to do with SPG or steampunk and 2. It's the kids corner. I did remove them from the table. A little notice for next time: If you don't talk to the organizers of the activity directly (Riley or I for this one), don't leave ads on their stuff. Even if Bunny says it's okay to, because she's not around and didn't plan the whole thing. Thanks!
Wow, Sprocket, okay.
For one, I didn’t leave the ads at the meetup for kids! I put them on the table because more than one SPG fan has expressed interest in the comic. I put only a few on the table, what I estimated that fans would take, because I was too scared to talk directly to other fans due to my shyness.
Funny thing, though, the comic is pretty family friendly for now, just fine for anyone to read. We try to keep it like that, because, I mean, my younger brothers and sisters read it! I don’t want them reading it if it’s not family friendly. But the con itself, well. There were a few men in dresses, and plenty of women dressed in far less than a nice skirt like Walter was wearing on the ad. So even though I may have made a mistake in putting the ads on the table due to a misjudgement, it’s nothing that any child at the con wouldn’t see anyways.
And no, my comic doesn’t have much to do with steampunk- though both the protagonists are fans of the subculture- or SPG- though both the protagonists are also huge fans of the band, as is actually mentioned in comic- but neither did plenty other ads or things sold there. Henna is not steampunk, but there was a very nice booth there for it. Raves aren’t steampunk, but there were ads up for one!
In fact, there were ads for a lot of things at SPWF. I even put some of ours on another table in front of one of the event security people and the organizer himself, Jeff Mach. Neither of them had an issue with that. As far as I knew, the tables in the “kids corner” were free space, especially as there hadn’t been anyone there before the activity, and other people were leaving things on other tables.
Now, I don’t know where you got the idea that I asked Bunny for permission to do that; maybe because Elta and I talked to Paige about our ads and were offered a place to advertise on the merch booth? But no, that was one man being nervous and thinking that some people with similar interests would like to see some ads for a comic written by other fans.
Out of curiosity, what did you do with the ads you removed? I mean, though I don’t agree with your decision to do so, I would be perfectly fine if you’d found a place you deemed appropriate for them and relocated them. After all, for now, I’m advertising for a loss. I only put the ads there because I know SPG fans are openminded and like the kinds of things our comic is about, so the fact that they were removed and potentially thrown away is a huge hit to it.
Thank you for coming to me, but I won’t lie, this almost feels like an attack. I’m sorry to have provoked this by using my best judgement with the situation.